being a conscious single requires embracing a psychic paradox of sorts, it seems. one, is that being single with the intention of meeting someone can be difficult and needs to be approached with the perseverance of any major life goal. however, there also needs to be joy in the present state of singleness and an excitement about what is coming. the idea is to have grace for yourself and your situation. alan cohen calls this being happy and hungry.

the task before us all has to do with finding the right stance to this hunger in life. not too forward and attached and not too withdrawn and careless. this looks like grace.

being and becoming graceful is the hallmark of being and becoming conscious--this applies to being a conscious single as well. might as well use what's smack in front of you to practice grace.

please share...

joel

p.s.  i am going to add couple of posts from the archives. 

In some ways being single has felt less alone than the 22 years I was married!  There are moments when I long for romantic/spiritual connection with a partner and other times when I cherish my quiet space at home....my sanctuary.  The relationship I seek is a soulmate relationship.  I don't seek a partner simply to fill space in my life...to fill a void.  I seek a deeply committed relationship where both of us can continue to grow; where we compliment each other and feel comfortable together. 
 
I've never been into large parties, singles groups, or huge crowds.  I prefer the warmth and sweetness of a warm and loving relationship where each of us can be ourselves.
 
I wish all who come to this site seeking, a deep awareness of their own beauty and gifts, and time to look within at what each of us has to offer another, as well as what they can offer us.
 
Love and many blessings on the journey....
 
Lynne

Happy New Year everyone...

 I just joined this group and not sure if this is the “thread” where I suppose to be-

 Not sure about what to say. but reading some of the posts here made me realized that I'm not alone- meaning that I thought that I was the only one with a " problem “and  actually is not a problem .

 Is realizing that after a few years of marriage, divorce and taking care of my youngest daughter, I left my self “abandoned”?

 Tried to date on a couple Internet websites I found that the true was not always there, and have a couple experiences that have disappointed me and I have retracted from all type of dating- it has been 2 years since my last date and the positive on all this situation is that those experiences made me growth as a person and a woman-I’m so thankful for those experiences because instead of finding a partner I found myself…

And that is priceless. I know now what do I want and what I don't want in my life'

I also know that he's there somewhere- but I 'm not "hungry" for being with someone- 

I'm hungry for communicating, sharing the same things, and yes I feel lonely sometimes in the sense I need tot talk with somebody ( a man) BUT once again I know now that that somebody has to be on the same frame of mind, meaning Zen spirit, somebody that we can share ideas goals, excitement, I'm human too...I like to dance, sing, laugh and all the other things like anyone else-and it is difficult to find somebody to share both sides of me.

  So I'm happy to be single, with the hope that he will show up someday- in the mean time I enjoy growing as a person.

 Thanks so much.

PD:

1)  Tarika is my spiritual name

2)  My profile picture is the reflection of me “ Free Spirit” but is not me-

3)  I have to decide when I will post my picture- as you can see. I have fears- Oh well, working on that one.

Right now I am really feeling how wonderful it would be to have a conscious playmate to play with.  If people are conscious enought not to hurt each other with lies, then everyone can play and have a wonderful time.  That would be the ultimate life experience...conscious playing.  I miss that.  So here I am looking for new playmates.  xoxo.  Su